How do You Know … if You’re in a Relationship?

handheld-relationship_2349450Seriously? Really? How is it possible not to know?

I know this is what most of you are thinking, but you may be surprised. Surprised by how many couples go through a confusing, un-defined stage in which their ‘relationship’ somewhat resembles a sailboat being skippered by a hare and a tortoise.

There is one saving grace in all this: Facebook. We all know ‘it’s not official until it’s on Facebook,’ but sadly some couples didn’t even know it was official until their other half put it on Facebook.

Do you really want this stale, blinking social media site (that we all simultaneously love and loathe) dictating the course of your relationships?

Of course not!

There is one simple answer to this problem. Call me old-fashioned, but it really works in clearing up muddy relational waters. Guys, you have to ask her.

Like, properly ask her. Not down on one knee for goodness sake, save that for later, but make it very clear that you would like her to be your girlfriend. Not as a statement; as a question.

Since you may only get one shot at it, make it a good question. Not ‘so, should we make it official?’ or ‘should we put it on Facebook?’ but an actual classy ‘you’ version of ‘will you be my girlfriend?’

You may get away with casually moseying into a relationship without having to go to all this effort, but chances are she’ll remember that you never really asked her out. Or even worse, she may not realize that she’s your girlfriend at all!

See also: How do you know… if it’s a date?

10 comments on “How do You Know … if You’re in a Relationship?

  1. Heidi Viars says:

    This is priceless! I am going to read it to my teen-age son!!! Thanks!

  2. journeyofjoy says:

    AMEN! This one is a passion point for me. You couldn’t have explained it more clearly! thank you…

  3. How about just making it obvious that you accept him/her as boyfriend/girlfriend. We never really asked each other. He took my hand, and I accepted it.

    • sarsrose says:

      Looks like it worked well for you then Joanne, as you were both on the same page. Sometimes it just doesn’t work that way though. Sometimes a guy takes a girls hand and two weeks later she discoveres that actually he really meant nothing by it. It’s a complicated world!

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