This is a question that I’ve given some thought to, but am yet to come up with an answer for.
As Christian parents (I’m not one, but they do say it takes a village to raise a child) it is our responsibility to raise our children with moral values and a fear of the Lord. Few would dispute that, but how far do we take it?
As a child, I learnt all about the fruits of the Spirit. There were diagrams and songs and colouring in sheets; juicy apples and pears and bananas all with a word attached: love, joy, peace…
These were all character traits that we knew we were to cultivate, but as an adult I can’t help wondering… have we missed the point?
Are fruits of the Spirit things that can be taught, or are they traits that grow in us purely as a result of the Spirit?
If we teach our children to exhibit these things, are we wisely training them in the way they should go, or are we creating little people who know how to look good on the outside, but whose hearts have not been changed?
Is it our moral responsibility to reward them for ‘Spirit filled’ behaviour and discipline them for ‘fleshly behaviour,’ or should we be focusing on teaching them the Gospel and letting the Spirit grow this fruit?
I’m really not sure. What are your thoughts?