A few things you shouldn’t say to skinny girls…

Do you find this topic surprising? Read on.

I come from a thin family; tall and thin. People would say I’m lucky, and I am, but it took me until my mid 20’s to believe it. Before that, if I could have changed anything about my physical appearance, I probably would have chosen to be fatter.

The world seems to assume that if a woman is thin, she has chosen it. While remarking on most women’s weight is a social taboo, thin women seem to be fair game.

What goes unnoticed is the emotional-verbal baggage that girls like myself have accrued.

I have never had an eating disorder, nor desired to be thin, but growing up, I received a multitude of personal barbs:

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‘There’s nothing to you.’

‘You’re so scrawny.’

‘You’re a stick.’

‘I’d hate to be as thin as you.’

‘You’re so skinny it’s disgusting.’

‘You’re gonna fade away.’

‘Do you even eat?’

Approaching adulthood as a size 6-8 (US 2-4), I felt abnormal and unattractive to men.

While I have overcome many of these insecurities, it doesn’t mean that people’s comments have stopped.

Just last week, my sister had a client stop her at work and say, ‘Wow, you’re so thin! I bet your husband wishes you’d put on weight so you were more cuddly!’

Thin girls are people too.

As a rule of thumb: if you wouldn’t say it to an overweight person, don’t say it to an underweight one.